Someone once told me that if you want a man to buy you flowers all you need to do is ask; I thought that this was a ridiculous idea! Why do I need to ask? Surely men realise that we need to be romanced and wined and dined to feel loved!
Needless to say, I was wrong, most men do not seem to realise these things for themselves (yes I am generalising) and if you expect them to just get it you could be waiting a very long time! Thinking that your man knows exactly what you want, can lead to immense disappointment, so you need to speak up and voice your needs. We all feel loved in different ways, which I wrote about in my “Love Languages” post; so its important to express what makes you feel loved!
It was quite amazing that once I realised where I was going wrong and decided to just ask for the things I wanted or needed ( not that I always get them – but at least I put it out there), it did become more spontaneous and I now get flowers whenever my man does the shopping. (which is usually every Saturday!)
Some people might feel that this method lacks spontaneity but at least I now feel special and loved, because I have articulated what my needs are. As my hubby once pointed out to me, as talented as he may be, he cannot read my mind!
So come-on girls if you really want flowers or whatever it is that makes you feel special, all you need to do is ask!
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